September 17, 2014 § Leave a comment
Part of my mission here at Fangirl Therapy is to do my part erasing some of the stigma that has plagued the ladies of fandom for centuries. Okay decades. But it’s still a big fucking deal. We are not all fourteen year olds crying at a Bieber concert. We have jobs and healthy relationships and some of us even make our beds every day. You wouldn’t even be able to pick us out of a lineup on the days that all our Threadless t-shirts are in the dirty laundry.
The truth is, the time is ripe for fangirling. We are rising up out of the ashes and claiming that our imaginations make us hot commodities. We are on the rise and on the move. Like if you had a magic wand and personified a Kelly Clarkson song. Okay maybe too far.
So let’s bust some myths, shall we?
Myth #1: Fangirls are all teenagers. The first fangirl friend I ever met in real life was a wonderfully intelligent and successful woman in her 40s. Sure there are herds of thirteen year olds lurking about the web and whining about not having enough allowance money for concert tickets, but most of us are college age and beyond. Is it more socially acceptable for a teenager to cry about Sirius Black than your grandmother? Yes. But that doesn’t mean the middle-aged ladies of the world aren’t secretly pining over Claire Underwood’s wardrobe in their free time.
Myth#2: Fangirls are trying to escape their boring lives. False. My life is pretty damn exciting. The stories I could tell about my clients if confidentiality weren’t an issue would fill a thousand TV seasons. I have hobbies that don’t involve making gifs. Fangirls can have rich and adventurous lives just like other people. We just have six thousand imaginary friends along for the ride and don’t require Bejeweled to keep us occupied.
Myth #3: Fangirls aren’t capable of healthy relationships. Seriously? What is it about the Internet that makes people think all of our fangirl friends are serial killers or proselytizing lesbians preying on straight girls? All of a sudden we’re all Orange is the New Black characters. Are there fangirls who meet online and become involved romantically? Of course. This tends to happen sometimes when humans interact with other humans. I met my boyfriend through an online dating site. It’s a brave new world folks. Engaging in fandom and participating in healthy family, friend and romantic relationships aren’t mutually exclusive. Anything can become unhealthy if you focus on it too intensely, real world relationships and online relationships alike.
And finally, Myth #4. Fangirls spend all day on the Internet. Hmm. Fine, this is 100% true. I’m on the Internet right now, scrolling past cat gifs. Haters gonna hate. Fangirls have been known, from time to time, to hang up our clicky fingers and breathe some fresh air and go hiking and shit. How else do you think we come up with vacation headcanon for our OTP?