July 27, 2016 § Leave a comment
On Friday morning my alarm went off at 4am, and I began the epic journey to San Diego Comic Con to promote The Fangirl Life and hang with some amazing friends.
I think it took me pretty much all of the first day to get oriented to the convention center and how the lines worked. But I did manage to stop by the Toddland Bob’s Burgers booth and pick up my Kuchi Kopi! :3 I was also wearing my cool book tee swag courtesy of Tarcher Perigee!
On Friday night, I got to hang out at the Penguin booth and GIVE AWAY free, signed copies of my book! I was happy that some folks from Twitter stopped by to say hi!
On Saturday, I had the honor of being on a panel called “The Female Geek” with some BAMF authors, including Leigh Bardugo, Sabaa Tahir, Margaret Stohl, Kiersten White, and Sarah Kuhn. You can check out the video here!
After the panel, everyone did a signing and I had a blast talking to people in line and signing more copies of The Fangirl Life. I also had a fangirl moment when Sabaa Tahir came up to talk to me and I told how much I’d enjoyed reading her book for the DC Forever Young Adult book club.
On Sunday, we skipped the con for some much needed self-care. We went to Balboa Park to visit the Museum of Photographic Arts and the San Diego Model Railroad Museum, which was amaze. I love model railroads because they make you feel like a giant god peeking in on people’s lives.
Truly, it was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to be a program participant at SDCC! But this little introvert is ready to spend a week at home and get back to work. You can catch me on my favorite podcast, The Shipping Room, later this week, where we’ll be talking about my book and my favorite ships!
I hope you have a great week! Keep on BAMFing, and be kind to yourself! If you have a fangirl dilemma, my mailbox is always open! I’ll be answering more questions soon.
January 25, 2016 § Leave a comment
Hi friends! I haven’t done an update in a while because I’ve been busy answering your angsty questions. Thanks as always for sending them! I’ll be responding to a few later this week.
2015 was a great year. I sold my book to a publisher, I wrote the damn thing, and I learned all about the publishing business and unlocked whole new levels of anxiety in my busy little head. My writing was featured on websites like Salon, The Mary Sue, Counseling Today, Bustle, and many others. I fell in love with a new heroine, climbed a mountain, went to Corgi Con, and got engaged. I GOT TO BE IN THE SAME ROOM WITH CHRISTINE BARANSKI. So yeah. WELL DONE 2015.
September 28, 2014 § Leave a comment
Jealousy always has been my cross, the weakness and woundedness in me that has most often caused me to feel ugly and unlovable, like the Bad Seed. I’ve had many years of recovery and therapy, years filled with intimate and devoted friendships, yet I still struggle. I know that when someone gets a big slice of pie, it doesn’t mean there’s less for me. In fact, I know that there isn’t even a pie, that there’s plenty to go around, enough food and love and air. But I don’t believe it for a second. I secretly believe there’s a pie. I will go to my grave brandishing my fork. – Anne Lamott
Spend two seconds in any fandom and you will see jealousy flare its ugly head. Fangirls act like they own a character, or they dismiss anyone who disagrees with them. They secretly hate those with more of a following or those who’ve met a certain celebrity. Anywhere there are humans on this planet there will be competition, so flailing over an OTP or debate over characterization is no exception. But did you know that that your emotions are the most tasty when you hand over the pie and let someone else have a slice?
Last weekend I went on a fangirl road trip to visit some of my tumblr friends (then twitter friends now real life friends). Two of us left after a long day of work at 9pm for a 6 hour road trip to meet our friends. And I can tell you without a doubt that arriving at a person’s house you’ve never met, in a strange city, at 3:30 in the morning, is the reason I am fangirl. It’s like getting to be a kid again, but with wine. When you meet women with whom you have shared the spectrum of emotions over the stories and characters you love, it’s like coming home. There is no need to impress, no need to size up, no need to compete in the manner that plagues so many of our adult relationships.
If you spend a lot of time complaining about interacting in a fandom, then it’s probably because you’re not doing it right. If you feel anxious because someone posted a picture of a celebrity before you do, or stole your fic idea, then you’ve failed to set your sights on the best part of fandom. The ship that sails faster and farther than the most life-ruining of OTPs. Friendship.
Unless you make them up yourself, you can never own a character, or a pairing, or a story. Sure, maybe you write better Vampire Diaries fanfic than anyone else ever has. Even better than Diane Lockhart’s housekeeper. But when we fangirl, we are borrowing characters. We’re taking them off the shelf, dusting them off, and taking them for a spin. But the shelf isn’t yours. The house isn’t even yours. You’re a guest, and you can spend that time bossing around the other visitors, or you can start paying attention to some of the absolutely fabulous people who just so happen to have stopped by.
The best fandom friends are the ones who root for your story as much as they do for your favorites in fiction. So don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to someone, or to shake someone off who’s bringing you down. Life is too short to get stuck in what’s temporary. Your interests may be transitory, but your confidantes don’t have to be.