July 7, 2016 § 1 Comment


Hi friends! If you’ve been in a cave or don’t follow me on social media, you might have missed that my book, The Fangirl Life: A Guide to All the Feels and Learning How to Deal, came out yesterday! If you haven’t ordered your copy, get on it!

I want to thank all fangirl friends who’ve been tweeting, and posting pics, and cheering for the book this week. I’m trying not to listen to Carl, the negative voice in my head, who’s telling me I’m annoying the hell out of everyone. I did something cool, Carl! So hush.

There’s been so much fun stuff during the promotion that I wanted to make sure you didn’t miss anything. Here are a few links.

I was interviewed by Penguin Random House’s Emily Hughes on the Beaks and Geeks podcast. Listen here.


Check out my interview with The Mary Sue!

Want to know “What Kind of Shipper Are You?” Take the quiz I wrote at Forever Young Adult, which is based on the book!


Want to know what fictional female characters I worship in literature? Read my article at Read It Forward!

I talked about my history of OTPs with the amazing Abby Norman on medium!

Geek Mom talked with me about what TV shows I’d “encourage” my children to watch.


July 12th – GOOD MORNING WASHINGTON – This fangirl therapist is going to be talking with the anchor of my local news show about Shonda Rhimes shows and how to live like the star of your own TV show. SQUEE!


July 13th – EAST CITY BOOKSHOP – Next Wednesday, come play Fangirl Trivia with us at East City Bookshop in Washington, DC. I’ll be reading and signing books, and THERE WILL BE OTP CUPCAKES. RSVP here.

July 22nd – COMIC CON – I’ll be signing books at the Penguin Random House booth on Friday evening! More info soon!


July 23th – I’m going to be on a super fun lady BAMF panel that I can’t talk about just yet! More soon. Also an additional signing to follow.

More to come, including some fun giveaways! Thanks again to everyone for your support! I’ll be answering fangirl dilemmas again on the blog in a day or two!




The Fandom Runner

January 26, 2015 § 3 Comments

The Maze Runner writes,

HELP!!! I have recently started reading The Maze Runner  and started fangirling over it. I’m only half way through the book, but I have already fell in love with the cast in the movie, especially this one actor and he is becoming a real life-ruiner. I have been reading constantly and recently lost some sleep over it. This is the first real fandom I have been in where I’m afraid it will take over my life. How do I obsess less while still enjoying the book and eventually the movie?

Oh boy. When you think about it, fandom is a lot like The Maze. Only fewer doods. One day you wake up and find that you’ve been flung up an emotional elevator into uncharted territory. You have no other memories except your Tumblr url. Like the Glade, fandom is a precariously balanced society teetering on the edge of chaos at any point. So how the hell do you get out? I think you know the answer to that.


“Obsessing less” isn’t really an option my friend. Either you obsess, or you don’t. And getting through the maze of life-ruining emotions and anxieties is no tricky feat, but it can be done. Here are a few strategies I might suggest.

Follow your anxiety. What are the Grievers in your life? What’s your worst fear? What stresses you out day-to-day? You might have to get close to them and even take a sting or two to gain some insight about your habits. The more tuned in your stressors you are, the less you’ll use obsession with Alby and the gang to calm yourself down.

Make fandom about reward, not escape. Teach yourself to associate reading your favorite fic or watching your favorite movie with getting shit done. You should be participating in fandom because you had a successful day, not to avoid having one. If you escape into fiction every day because you want to escape something scary, then you’ll dig yourself deeper and deeper. And it’ll take less and less over time to make you run.

Take courage from fiction. What is the moral of The Maze Runner in your opinion? That we’re all f**ked in dystopian scenarios? I think the message of the series is that we can accomplish anything with enough persistence. Thomas and the other runners couldn’t learn the maze in a single day. Bit by bit, they began to piece together a map of where they were headed.

Life is exactly the same way, friend. The gates open, and you start running all over again. Each day you take a little more with you, and make it a little farther than the last. Beating our obsessions works just like that. Every day I show up and try and be a little more of a fanwoman than I was the day before. I might slip, and I might get stung, but I’m a little freer today than I was the day before.

5 Dystopian Trilogies Better Than ‘The Hunger Games’

November 21, 2014 § Leave a comment

With the unending details and minor dilemmas of modern day living, there is an ensnaring simplicity to the fictional task of survival. Perhaps it’s callous to love dystopia, to soak up stories where the characters are much worse off than you are, but the fiction shelves of bookstores are littered with these premises. For some reason, we just can’t get enough of the world ending. And rebooting, in the most terrifying ways.

This week part one of Mockingjay, the final book in the Hunger Games Trilogyopened in theaters and is sure to draw in adults and teens alike. While I love the saga as much as the next fangirl, I prefer my dystopia without a side of angsty love triangle. Here are three dystopian trilogies which I think are even better and scarier than the teen sensation.

The Chaos Walking Trilogy by Patrick Ness






This dystopian meets sci-fi meets western trilogy is my favorite young adult series and relatively unknown. Todd Hewitt is the only child living in a town full of men who can all hear each other’s thoughts. One day he escapes and stumbles across a girl whose thoughts are surprisingly private, and together they discover the strange and violent history of their planet. Ness asks big questions about race, power and terrorism in his epic trilogy, while commanding the power to make you sob endlessly.

The Maddaddam Trilogy by Margaret Atwood






The legendary Atwood says her main task these days is to stay alive long enough to make sure HBO doesn’t screw up its soon-to-exist portrayal of this brilliant trilogy, the third of which hit bookstores this past year. This tale of corporate and genetic engineering gone catastrophic seems not too far from our present. Beginning with the end of the world, the novels wind their way back through the friendship and love story that spun into the chaos of playing God.

The Southern Reach Trilogy by Jeff Vandermeer






If you’re not too attached to the concept of sleeping peacefully, then follow the twelfth expedition into the wilderness of Area X. This trilogy reminds me of the maddening complexities and paranormal mysteries of the hit show Lost. In a similar fashion, we get a behind the scenes peek at the scientists trying to uncover the phenomenon in Area X as well as the horrors that await them once they cross the border.

The Silo Trilogy by Hugh Howey






While some dystopian authors reach far into space, Howey buries the future of humanity deep under the earth. In a massive silo nestled under the now toxic surface of the planet, humans have created an industrious society and hidden their history to prevent any uprisings. When an unlikely candidate becomes the silo’s sheriff, she’s willing to start asking the questions that can save them or destroy them.

The Passage Trilogy by Justin Cronin






Think of The Walking Dead, but imagine that the zombies are also vampires and can jump as high as small building. Scared yet? The “virus destroys the world” storyline may be old hat for some, but Cronin turns the premise on its head with his terrifying “virals” and his trilogy that spans both miles and decades. I couldn’t finish the first book in the series fast enough, and I can’t wait to see what happens in the upcoming finale to this brilliant, blood-curdling series.

Publishers may squeeze trilogies out of authors these days, but these five series are worth every sentence in every book. While the futures they paint might not be so bright, yours will definitely be an entertaining one if you’re willing to venture past District 13 and give them a try.

You can read the original on the Huffington Post here.

Put Down the Fanfic

September 23, 2014 § Leave a comment

Books. Every fangirl likes them in theory, but sometimes we get sidetracked by our OTP and spend months submerged in the depths of fanfic, both good and bad. If you’re wanting to move out of a fic reading stage and pick up an actual book, here are a few tips to get you started.

1. Read what you like. You don’t have to be reading Dostoevsky for your brain to get all wrinkly. If it takes some chick lit for you to prep yourself to sink back into denser fiction, then that’s fine.

2. Consider the benefits. Did you know that people who read fiction are more likely to demonstrate greater empathy towards others as well as greater interpersonal skills? But you have to be willing to put yourself in different people’s shoes, not just your favorite character’s over and over again.

3. Use your fangirl imagination. If you have to plaster another character’s face on the protagonist in your mind to get excited about a book, then cast away. There was a blonde protagonist in the Wool series named Juliet, so of course I cast her as Elizabeth Mitchell.

4. Ask your fangirl friends. What book reminds them of a TV show or a movie you like?  To get you started with this, here are few of my recommendation.

If you like Downton Abbey, then you might like









If you like The Walking Dead, then try









Rather than reading Harry Potter for the 9th time, how about









Did you love how much LOST scared you? Then I recommend









Caught in a Hunger Games slump? How about









Love BAMFy middle-aged ladies? You must read









I’m not into The Big Bang Theory, but I did love









Who doesn’t love Orphan Black? You have to read









Interested in prison life from Orange is the New Black? I loved









Finally, for all you Battlestar Galactica fans who love middle-aged idiots in cabins, then you must read,





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