Please Notice Me
January 5, 2016 § 2 Comments
FangirlWithManyQuestions writes,
I’ve met my fave actress, I’ve talked to her, and it was wonderful! Now I’m about to meet her again but this time there will be many other fans around and I can already feel myself getting kinda… well jealous.
My main problem is that I would like to make an impression, make her laugh or something like that (what fan doesn’t want that, right?), but I’m so scared to appear creepy that when I talk to her I hardly dare to say anything at all. My goal is it to talk to her & seem like a young woman who deeply respects & appreciates her work and who admires her as a human being. I don’t want her to see me as one of the 100 crazy fangirls who have trouble distinguishing between fiction and reality.
So what can I do to seem like a passionate young women rather than a crazy fan? And how do I stop being jealous of other fans who might get 5 secs more time with her than me & my friend? Hope you can help me Kathleen.
Friend, I’m going to tell you something that you probably don’t want to hear. Are you ready? Sure?
Being noticed by a celebrity will not make you happy.
As much as a fangirl may protest, any relationship she has with a actor is never going to be a two-way street. You can make her laugh. She might follow you on Twitter, or even remember your name. But she’s always going to be in the power spot.
There’s nothing wrong with meeting celebrities and telling them we appreciate them. But when we invest our emotional energy into being noticed, we’ll ultimately lose sight of what’s important. The value of equal, accessible relationships.
It’s normal for a fangirl to crave intimate relationships with famous women. Many want the guidance of a mother figure, others want a confidante, and some are looking for love.
So what are you looking for? A mentor? A friend? Rather than fixing your eyes on a celebrity to fill any of these roles, see who’s around you every day. Fame and recognition aren’t the only currency in life. The rewards of a real relationship outweigh the temporary high of simply being noticed.
So this is my advice to you: put out a casting call for the characters you need, and you might be surprised who shows up. With an badass squad in your life, you won’t even sweat it the next time you run into your fave.
Fangirl Therapy 
Thanks a lot for your answer (: It is indeed not what I wanted to hear lol I am aware that it I will not become my fave’s bestie or anything like that. I have a bestie and she is not replaceable! XD
But the fandom I’m in is somewhat small and I know there are fans out there my fave knows and messages to privately. This is not my life goal but I’m not gonna deny that it would be nice. But its really not what I’m trying to achieve here. What I actually wanted is that when she goes home after this little get together, that she might smile and think: that crazy girl with the curly hair told me I gave her more self-confidence and that makes me smile.
That’s all (:
PS: I love this service that you are offering here. So many fans out there, with some many questions and so very few people they can ask those questions to. Thanks for being one of these few people (:
Telling her she gave you more self-confidence sounds like a wonderful message to convey! Take that confidence and use it every day! Thanks for writing! 😀