An Unscripted Life
November 17, 2015 § Leave a comment
Unrequited Lover writes,
I have crushes on fictional characters. I know that I will never meet them and that there is no chance that we could ever be together, but I still refuse to accept it. I can’t even wrap my head around it.
Having such strong feelings for fictional characters is interfering with my real life. If someone ever asks me on a date, it’s very rare that I’ll even consider it, because of the feelings I have for characters that don’t exist. It’s starting to get out of hand, and I’m missing out on a lot of opportunities. Help me please!
Why are fictional people so great? Let’s review.
- Their lines are scripted.
- They have hours of prep to look perfect.
We live in an age where we are constantly trying to sculpt perfect identities. You can erase a text ten times before you send it. You can take 67 selfies and pick the best one. You only share the exciting news in your life on Facebook.
It is only natural that we gravitate towards the scripted self. People that spring from the heads of writers and can pause reality like Zack Morris and get their makeup retouched or try a different line.
But life is not fiction. The world is one giant improv show. No one is feeding you your lines. No one is going to feed your date their lines either. No one has any idea what anyone else will do. This is called life, and it is both terrifying and exciting.
Fiction may be your problem, but it’s also the solution. Because of the 3rd reason why we are drawn to fictional characters: they fail. They say the wrong thing, and sometimes choose the wrong person. We watch them fall down, and we watch them stand back up again to live another episode.
So friend, what I want you to do is to think of your life as a story where the main character is so busy daydreaming that she doesn’t notice what and who is snapping their fingers in front of her face. What would happen next? Where would you go? Who would you cast in your life? In the shippy moments?
You are your author, your protagonist, and your audience. So start living like it.