Drarry Quite Contrary
January 20, 2016 § Leave a comment
Melissa writes,
Im the biggest fangirl for Drarry (Draco Malfoy and Harry Potter), to the point that I refuse to sleep because I’m reading stories about them. I can’t do homework or study, I’m procrastinating all the time, and it’s getting out of hand. I buy all the merchandise and I’ve watched the Harry Potter movies at least 8 times in a day. How do I stop this?
I feel like the Harry Potter fandom is the best and the worst because A: You never run out of fic, and B: YOU NEVER RUN OUT OF FIC. You can’t say, “Oh I’ve weeded my way down to the fic written by 13 year olds who have zero sex knowledge and use words like ‘buttcheeks’ so I’m going to slowly close my laptop and pretend none of this ever happened.”
SO WHAT CAN YOU DO? I suggest you practice a little mindfulness. For one day, I want you to jot down the following info:
- When did a Drarry thought occur?
- What was happening around you when it occurred?
- How were you feeling before the thought?
Often our fangirl brains autopilot straight to shippytown when we feel uncomfortable. But you can’t change your mindset unless you understand when and how it happens. Once you do, you can practice bringing your attention back to what’s happening around you rather than close down.
When we’re anxious or bored, those are the times when we should look closer at the situation instead of simply pulling out our phones or watching a movie. So face that difficult homework assignment. Sit alone with your thoughts in bed. Challenge yourself to do the next BAMFy thing. DO IT MELISSA!
When you get comfortable with being uncomfortable, you won’t need Drarry to keep you going. Rather than a crutch, they can be a source of angsty delight.
Fangirl Therapy 
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