PLEASE MOM PLEASE
March 15, 2016 § 1 Comment
Zoe writes,
Okay, here’s the thing. I like about 3500 different middle-aged actresses. (That’s not even the problem.) But anyways, I am a broke as heck teenager who needs to meet her favs! How do I convince my parents to let me meet my internet friends and stay with them and then meet my favs?
The Chill is Gone
March 14, 2016 § 1 Comment
Hannah writes,
Agh! Hello, Kathleen! I just got involved with a new Netflix series and I immediately became obsessed with one of the villains. I’ve always been one of those girls who swooned over the villain, but this dude was different. I have tendencies to obsess over people in bands and TV shows, so this isn’t new to me, but I literally cannot control myself whenever he pops up on the screen or says something or picks up a pen. My mom thinks I’m insane and tells me to chill, but I cannot chill. No chill is left in me. How do I deal with all these feelings? I feel like I’m being really creepy, and I know that this phase will probably pass, but at the moment I don’t know what to do with myself.
Fangirl Mindfulness
March 9, 2016 § 7 Comments
I wanted to give a big thank you to those who have been joining the #fangirlhealth Twitter chats every Wednesday night at 8pm. We’ve had some great discussion about how fangirling can be a source of inspiration rather than simple distraction and how fangirls can engage in self-care.
Tonight I’ll be doing some self-care of my own, so in lieu of the chat I’m leaving two fangirl mindfulness exercises for you to practice.
First, let’s look at some of the ways that a fangirl can be less than mindful:
Meet N’ Greet
March 7, 2016 § 2 Comments
Dedicated 5S0S Fan writes,
Hi there. I really love Ashton Irwin from 5 Seconds Of Summer, and I just want help to see if there are any possible ways that I could meet him. To just get it out of my system, to stop my 5SOS Fan Freak-Outs getting the better of me. Sadly, I can’t afford the Meet N’ Greet Packages or Tickets for 5SOS or Sound Check Experience. I’m the biggest 5SOS Fan ever. Please just help me out in any way that you can.
The Obsessive BAMF
March 4, 2016 § Leave a comment
Daniela writes,
Is it healthy to be obsessed over a TV Show? I’ve read your diagnoses and yes I identify myself with lots of them but I mean… people think I’m crazy. Is that good?
Normal People Problems
February 24, 2016 § Leave a comment
X writes,
Hi! My problem is that normal people don’t interest me anymore. The only people I care about are either fictional or celebrities. It’s not that I don’t have friends–I do. But I’m always unfamiliar with the topic they are talking about, which is always either a ‘cute’ boy (which I confuse with another boy) or a popular girl I have no idea about.
I don’t want to know every gossip. But I want to be able to join the conversation and say my opinion rather than just sitting uncomfortably wondering who they are talking about or saying, ‘Hey something like that happened to (insert celebrity name here) too!’
I feel really lonely when we meet with my friends or when I try to avoid sleepovers and things like that.
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I Lurv You, Famous Person
February 17, 2016 § Leave a comment
Confused Fan writes,
Do you think it’s possible to fall in love with a celebrity? I mean really and truly fall in love. There is one celebrity that I love and admire a lot; it could be infatuation but it feels more like love? It’s hard to explain and it seems ridiculous because I don’t know this celebrity personally, and this celebrity doesn’t even know who I am. But I can’t help but feeling it’s some sort of unrequited love. Not the kind where if I just took action something might happen, but the kind where I know it will not happen but I can’t stop loving them anyway. I’m also worried that this whole thing might seem creepy (I haven’t told anyone before and I would never say anything to the celebrity if I had the chance because I wouldn’t want to make her uncomfortable or anything), but I’m just genuinely confused. What do you think? And what can I do?
FINISH IT
February 15, 2016 § Leave a comment
Anonymous fanfic-scrapping addict writes,
Long story short, I’m addicted to going ‘screw it’ and throwing all the fanfic I write in the fire. Why???
I want to write something! My writing’s not bad, is it? Everyone else likes it. My ideas aren’t too shabby. But every time I get past a few pages, I just feel the need to delete the whole thing and start over. It’s infuriating. Why can’t I finish any project?
Help please. I need to know why this is happening and why I keep rejecting my own headcanon.
What Makes a Fangirl?
February 8, 2016 § 1 Comment
Anonymous writes,
I love being a fangirl and I love fangirling. I watch tons of popular and obscure shows and I often dive in to the fandoms for those shows. My problem comes in the “variety” (for lack of a better term) apparent in my fangirling. I’ve never fangirled over a female character!
I keep lists for actors I’m a fan of and try to watch all their stuff, but never an actress. I worry something is wrong with me because I just can’t seem to connect with any female characters or actresses like all my friends do. Is this just a case of not watching shows with strong female characters? I’m way more of a horror/Sci-fi gal than romance and for a long time I just assumed that was my problem.
Escape Artist
February 2, 2016 § Leave a comment
Anonymous writes,
So I get lost in my headcanon. A lot. It happens at work, at home, on the bus. . . After a CBT therapy last year, I realized that this behaviour could be an escapist response to my anxiety. I have since been trying to teach my brain not to go there all the time.
The only issue is that getting lost in my headcanon is the only way I’m able to write fic. Now that I’m trying to limit myself, my fic ideas remain unwritten. I’m afraid that if I indulge in them, I’ll just end up in an escapist fantasy again.
Any suggestions as to how I can still write my fic and be mindful?
Fangirl Therapy 