Wrong on the Internet

June 9, 2016 § 1 Comment


Fanwoman writes,

I find myself getting irrationally angry when I see people on the internet or social media quoting incorrect things about a celeb I follow. For example, they may be quoting an article that they have apparently misunderstood. Or they may be picking up on gossip or rumors that are not correct. And it REALLY bothers me to the point where I have to resist replying to people and constantly arguing with them online, proving them incorrect, citing the correct information etc. I’m not sure why this bothers me but there’s a part of me that is angry on behalf of that celeb i.e. wanting to help clear up all this misinformation online.

« Read the rest of this entry »

Life Swap

June 6, 2016 § Leave a comment


Lindsey writes,

How do you stop comparing your life to your favorite character’s life? I watch shows and movies and read books about people’s lives that seem so much more exciting and fun than my own. I’ve had my little fangirl obsessions over the years and each time I imagine switching lives with the characters presented onscreen or on the page. Don’t get me wrong. I am thankful for the life I have. I have a supportive family and live in an amazing place, but right now I want to be a part of 18th century Scotland. How can you be jealous of fictional characters and find that same joy and excitement in your own life?

« Read the rest of this entry »

Welcome to My Obsession

June 2, 2016 § Leave a comment


Maxene writes,

I’ve recently found this podcast called Welcome to Night Vale. And when I get obsessed with something, I get OBSESSED. So I find myself talking nonstop about the characters’ plights and about the ship Cecil and Carlos which is canon (Thank you, Joseph Fink). And I find that my family, brother, and even my friends are starting to get annoyed by it. My brother even lashed out at me for liking something so morbid and confusing. And to make it worse, none of my friends listen to it, so it just makes me look crazy when I rant on and on about it. Do you have any suggestions that might help me try to tone down my obsession with this podcast? Thanks!

« Read the rest of this entry »

You Are the Sun

May 11, 2016 § 1 Comment


Elly writes,

Recently reality hit me right on the head. I realized that all of my favorite characters aren’t real. Even though I’ve been there for them my entire life, they’ll never really been there. I now feel like I’m broken. 

« Read the rest of this entry »

The Twitterverse

April 26, 2016 § Leave a comment


Anonymous asks,

So I guess one question I have is this. What do you do if you feel like you’re just waiting for a response from the cast you tweet with (even just a like or RT), & it makes you sad if it’s been awhile since that’s happened but you see their Twitter interactions with people you know & it creates jealousy? And if you feel like you’ve made a group of friends & slowly start to doubt if those people think of you the same way? All of this feels so junior high. And at my age, feels really really silly.

« Read the rest of this entry »

Too Shy

April 19, 2016 § 1 Comment


Joanah writes,

I recently saw this girl at my school and I noticed that she was wearing an NBC Hannibal T-shirt and so I wanted to hang out with her, but I was too shy to go over and speak to her. I’m uncomfortable around people and I’m afraid that I’ll do something weird. (It’s honestly a miracle that I have any ‘friends’ at all.) I wanted to say,”I eat the rude,” (it’s a quote from the show) but I just couldn’t get up the courage to speak, even when I was so close by her. Please help me make fangirl friends! (Also, I love your book! :3)

« Read the rest of this entry »

Malec Attack

April 2, 2016 § 1 Comment


Malec shipper writes,

SO MY OTP JUST WENT CANON. It’s a bit difficult to explain but basically I’ve read this book series called The Mortal Instruments, and there’s a lot of ships. I finished the series one or two years ago. Now they’ve made a TV show out of it. I thought “Meh, it can’t be as good as the books.” So I didn’t watch it. A month later, I see something that I thought was an edit of Alec and Magnus kissing (Malec), so I was like, “Hmm, i should watch it.” I WATCHED 9 HOURS IN 26 HOURS, during these 26 hours I also had school. Anyways, there was an episode called “Malec” and apparently it wasn’t an edit. I now feel very unstable and feel like screaming at various times. The feels basically pound inside of my heart. What’s the best way to deal with this? Also, the series hasn’t finished yet, there will be more of it 6/4. A.K.A MORE OF THEM I CAN’T.

« Read the rest of this entry »

The Whisper Screams

March 30, 2016 § 1 Comment


Isabella writes,

Hello, I am a HUGE geek. I like to watch gamers on YouTube and whenever I find a new ship, I tend to internally scream. If I find a new nOtp, I visibly gag and do whisper screams. How do I stop myself from overreacting over ships?

« Read the rest of this entry »


March 24, 2016 § Leave a comment


Veronica writes,

Disney recently released a new film called Zootopia. And OHMYGOD I LOVE IT SO MUCH. I’m already a humongous gigantic mammoth fan of anything Disney related, but this movie honestly consumed me. I’m in love with the main characters, and I ship them SOOO HARD. It’s honestly out of control. I spent the whole afternoon today reading fanfics about Zootopia, and now I’m basically exploding with feels. I was supposed to study this afternoon, but then I was like “but. tumblr.” and now it’s 8 pm where I live.

It’s an overload of happiness; what’s not to love? But it’s so messy and emotional and hard to control. I don’t want to cut it out of my life; honestly, fangirling seems like one of the most beautiful things you can do (especially as a teenage girl). But is there some way to control it? HELPPPPPPP. PLEASE. Thank you so much. I hope your book flies off the shelves.

« Read the rest of this entry »


March 18, 2016 § 2 Comments


This weekend I’ll be at C2E2 in Chicago, handing out book promo materials like a fangirl missionary. Chances are if you’re visiting this page for the first time, I have or someone on the BAMF squad has accosted you about this little beauty.

9781101983690 (1) (1)

I wanted to answer some questions I’ve gotten about The Fangirl Life, for new folks and those who visit regularly.

When is your book coming out? 

July 5th! Although if you’re lucky you might win an Advanced Reader Copy on goodreads! We’re giving away 15!

What can the book do for me? 

It can teach you how to use your fangirl passions to conquer in your own life.  How to be the BAMF in your own story.

Where can I buy it? 

EVERYWHERE. No seriously. You can buy the paperback or ebook online on the Penguin site, Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Books a Million, Indiebound, Target, Powells, etc. Or you can pre-order it through your local bookstore!

I don’t live in the United States. Can I still buy it? 

OF COURSE. Most major book sites should have it listed already. If all else fails, it will be on your country’s Amazon page.

Why should I pre-order? 

Because YAS? Everyone who pre-orders will receive a fun BAMF workbook pdf that contains unicorn questions and exercises that accompany each chapter! Consider it an investment in your future. Also, the success of books largely depends on pre-orders these days. So if you know you’re going to buy it, it helps me out the most if you buy early.

May I see what’s inside the book? 

Yes. Check out the hashtag #fangirllifebook on Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, and Facebook. I post pictures daily of text and the amazing art in the book.

Why did you write the book? 

I’m a student of psychotherapy, a profession whose efforts could be summed up with one simple question—what motivates people? After many years in graduate school I realized I had never asked myself that question? Story is what motivates me. Story is powerful, and it doesn’t matter whether it’s coming from across the table or my Netflix account. I think all too often, fangirls fail to remember in our own lives that the bad weeks are part of a larger story. A story where you are your author, your protagonist and your audience. So I wanted to create a guide for them to see how their fictional passions could be the fuel for their own stories—their romantic lives, their career pursuits, and their own personal wellness.

Am I too old for this book? 

Never! In many ways this book is a letter to all my fangirl friends, young and old. Much of the advice is geared toward adulting strategies and career endeavors. It’s not a how-to guide for new fangirls. It’s a what-now? guide for those who know the game and want to grow as women.

I think I have a fangirl problem. Can I write to you? 


Thanks, friends. If you have any more questions, hit me up @fangirltherapy on Twitter, or email me at fangirltherapist@gmail.com.

%d bloggers like this: